Tuesday, November 23, 2010

Making Decisions: right or wrong is not the end of the world

December is practically here.  Wow, time does seem to fly. As the end of the year gets closer and closer, I can't help but think about the years that have gone past.

I can honestly say that my life is not what I imagined.  The different choices that I've made have led me to a different path than I had dreamed off.

I don't think that I was ever sure of what I wanted.  I didn't have a set dream to realize and the future always seemed so far away and mysterious.  Having everyone tell me that I was capable of doing anything I wanted was not very helpful. I know they meant well, but where to start when  I didn't even know what I wanted? I didn't know what I liked or disliked.

Did I want to be a doctor? a lawyer? a teacher? Did I want to get married? So many questions, very few answers.  Since it was hard to makeup my mind, I just did what they told me to do. Go to school get a degree, get a job and make some money. But no one told me that I had to like what I did.  Working was not something that you had to like it was just something that you tolerated to put bread on the table.  I must admit that I did not finish college and I guess that might seem to a lot of people a such a "waste". But as I continue to walk through life I realized that the paper did not define who i am.  It would have opened a lot of doors but I think I've done pretty good without one.

Some of my friends have their degree and they work on the area they studied in college, but many others are working in areas completely different to what they studied.  Some people might see that as a "waste" but I think that it is a part of growing up and being alive.

Growing up means changing and adapting to the circumstances that life gives you. We are entitled to change our mind as many times as we want in order to achieve happiness.  As Theodore Roosevelt ( US President 1858-1919) once said "Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."  Given the circumstances could you possible make a different choice?

If you give your best at everything that you do, then there is no need to feel like a failure. No one can ask more of you than your best. I guess what I am trying to say is that if you enjoy what you are doing, why should you have to change just because other people tell you that it is not right.  If you go to school and get a degree as a doctor, as you do your job you realize that it is too hard to see other people suffering and it affects you on a personal level, then no one should tell that it is wrong to change careers.  If you are an art history major and you decide that you want to become a lawyer because you want to have the means to defend someone that needs it, then who is to say that it's wrong?

Even if you decide that school is not for you, then no one should judge you for that choice.  You make the best decision, with the information you have under the circumstances. No one can do more than that.

If the results are different than what you expected, well take it in stride, learn from it and move on.

 It really isn't the end of the world.

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